With Mother's Day right around the corner, moms who don't always have their kids at home might be wondering about Mother's Day child custody and visitation arrangements.
Though every family has their own way of doing things, there are certain steps you can take to make sure your Mother's Day is a fun, flower-filled holiday for everyone.
Here are five child custody and visitation tips to keep in mind this Mother's Day:
Comply with your Mother's Day custody/visitation agreement. Look to your custody or visitation order for holiday schedules, which will typically cover Mother's Day. To be equitable to both parents, some states like Texas have standard visitation schedules which include both Mother's Day and Father's Day by default.
It may not be too late to request it. If your custody and visitation order doesn't cover Mother's Day, you may still be able to work out some arrangement with the other parent. It may be too late for a court hearing on the matter, unless there are special or extraordinary circumstances -- but that usually refers to medical emergencies or allegations of child abuse.
Try not to be disruptive or create tension. Kids need a certain level of routine in their lives, even on Mother's Day. When it comes to custody and visitation arrangements, it's important to put your child's interests first. Also try not to ruin your special day by squabbling with the other parent. It's also a good idea to not badmouth your ex when spending time with your kid.
Would you be a meddler? Sometimes when a kid doesn't get her way with one parent, she'll go to the other, hoping for a more favorable outcome. You might feel generous on Mother's Day and be tempted to indulge your little one, but try to resist the urge, especially if it's unfair to the other parent.
Stick to your visitation schedule and be on time. If you do get custody or visitation with your kids this Mother's Day, it's important to be courteous and on-time when it comes to dropping off or picking up your child. This of course goes for dads too. Don't interfere with agreements, and make sure you're prompt and reliable. After all, Father's Day is just a month away!